Bully's 'Potential List'

Everyone I know has potential, but not the kind that most people think. Bully (my anxiety voice) likes to remind me that everyone I know has potential to be disappointed by me. And all the potential disappointment and real disappointments pile up on me weighing me down.

Bully then counts them for me one by one:

1. Your mom is so disappointed in you she hasn't talked to you it over 2 years and can't bear to say why. You should list all the potential reasons why, for the 578th time.
2. Your son just stormed out of the room because you cancelled plans because of me. Why did you let me win, again?! How many times is that now?
3. Your daughter must be disappointed in you because she's snapping at her brother for no reason. What did you do this time to disappoint her?
4. Your husband is disappointed because you can't evict me and I kept you up all night, again! That is how many times now?
5. In a turn of irony, your volunteering organization leader just learned that you are disappointed in HIS lack of leadership and you should have kept your mouth shut, now what are you going to do?! He's going to be so disappointed in your lack of loyalty. Dissect your future conversation over and over until you have fixed it.
6. You possibly misspoke to a friend yesterday and they probably took it wrong. Now they don't want to talk to you, do they? Nice job. Why do you even try to talk to your friends? What EXACTLY did you say, again? 
7. Your bff and your husband both told you that you have potentially healing words for your family member? Ha! After reading them your carefully written words, they cried. Why did you believe your BFF and husband?! You couldn't just forgive and forget?! Who do you think you are? There are a million things you should have said instead. What are they?! Let's LIST THEM ALL!!
8. You know that friend you haven't talked to in 10 years? Well her beautiful daughter is dying of a rare disease and you didn't even know! You better reach out to her and ask for forgiveness for losing touch. Read every one of her daughter's instagram posts and feel her pain. You deserve it.
9. Your doTERRA friend wants to help you build your business again, but you can't even talk to people without dwelling on it for days. How are you supposed to share or invite them to classes if you can't even talk to them correctly?! How many missed opportunities have you had already? LET'S COUNT THEM!!!

I know that I can't please everyone. That's firm knowledge in my head. I'm okay with it logically. But then Bully steps in, and tells me that I shouldn't be. Bully's list changes all day. Some items are always there, but many pop off and pop on depending on how much anxiety I'm feeling. If the list is short, I can usually keep it that way. But, once Bully gets access to the list, items get added faster than I can ever imagine, my head spins and I start to panic.

How do I take away Bully's power to add to this list?